Empty seats at the National Mall prior to the inauguration  (Photo: Carlos Barria/Reuters)

Today I will not attend the inauguration of Donald J. Trump. Nor will I watch it on television or listen to it on the radio.

I have argued with myself about this. It wasn’t an easy decision. I have never missed a presidential inauguration.
I’ve been asking myself why this time is different. And this morning the answer finally came: My decision to be absent isn’t a political one. It’s a moral one.
I’ve watched president-elects I haven’t voted for take office many times, often with qualms about their proposed policies or their visions for the future, but I’ve never had a sense of moral grief as I do today. What I object to most isn’t Mr. Trump’s proposed agenda, disturbing as much of it is. What I object to most is his lack of fundamental respect for human beings beyond his own blood and tribe. Though he hasn’t yet been sworn in, that lack of respect has already done tremendous damage to the nation,.
With every fiber of my being, I grieve that harm. I refuse to give it my stamp of approval by somehow “attending” his swearing in. He is my president, yes. My country elected him. I acknowledge that political fact. But the moral fact is that Mr. Trump’s values are destructive to human community. I grieve his ascendancy not because he’s a Republican but because he lacks conscience. He appears willing to do anything, and say anything, to get what he wants. And what he wants most is attention.
As a citizen it is therefore my deep responsibility to not feed his narcissism and encourage his bigotry by helping him celebrate his rise to power. I will read or watch his inaugural speech later, in the off-chance that it might help me understand him better. But I feel a moral urgency to not bear witness to the moment of his triumph. It is, among other things, the triumph of crassness, incivility, insecurity, intolerance, fear-mongering and hatred. I choose instead to witness to decency and respect, humaneness, compassion, inclusion, righteous relations, the sacred dignity and worth of all.
On this Inauguration Day I will pray, in my way, for this nation and President Trump. I will tune into love of the neighbor, love of Mother Earth, love of All That Is–even that which I find repugnant and must actively resist. I will spend my time meditating, writing, contemplating, preparing myself in various ways for tomorrow, just another ordinary day in a lifetime of serving the common good.
Deep peace to us all.
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Phyllis Cole-Dai

Phyllis Cole-Dai has authored or edited eleven books in multiple genres, including historical fiction, spiritual nonfiction and poetry. She lives in Brookings, South Dakota, USA.


  • Julie michelson says:

    Well said, Phyllis! Thank you!

  • Ronnie Smith says:

    Well said and beautifully written Phyllis. You’ve put into words the feelings I’ve carried throughout the campaign. What concerns me most are the conditions of our society that led us to such a place that a man like Trump could speak for a people who feel so disenfranchised. We have much to be concerned about, and we can’t just blame Trump, but rather that the times are such that he could get elected.

  • You’re welcome, Julie! Let’s shine strong light!

  • Totally agree, Ronnie. Mr. Trump’s ascendancy is a mirror. We have a lot of work to do. We knew that before. We know it even better now.

  • Thank you for your beautiful commentary. I couldn’t agree more.

  • You’re welcome, Carol. Tomorrow we begin again. As we do every day.

  • Susan Gunn says:

    As has been said elsewhere, “he has done us all a favor by exposing” values, attitudes, and worries that were still there under the surface, temporarily silenced by political correctness. So now that the die is cast, what do we do now?
    First, I think, is to gain heart by looking at the NYT panorama of the marches around the world: see Watching it all the way to the end — it made me cry.
    Second, gain ideas by watching this TED talk:
    Third, uh, it’s your turn….

  • Thanks for supplying these links, Susan! We need to keep working on imagining and articulating an affirmative vision, and bring it to flesh, in both organized and individual ways. Let’s keep sharing ideas on how to do that!

  • poetjude says:

    My friend sent this to me. Very close to my sentiments. I just feel like I have to act fairly quickly to help mitigate the harm that is happening.

  • Yes, there’s an urgency to all this that is heart-rending. I find it difficult to focus on other areas of my life because so much seems to be at stake, dealing with Mr. Trump’s agenda. Let’s do what we can, and also take good care of ourselves, pacing ourselves, because this will be a long struggle.

  • Susan Gunn says:

    Ah, it’s good to hear that others are experiencing the same difficulty in focusing as I am.
    Transfixed by unfolding events, stuck to radio and internet, trying to keep each new shock from sneeking up from behind. Watch in horror as tenderly-crafted intricately-webbed structures receive blow after blow… our Aleppo?..

  • Yes, yes, yes. I described it this way in a Facebook post: “Watching all these developments coming out of Mr. Trump’s Washington is like being forced to binge-watch a really, really bad series on Netflix that has 400 seasons. Only if you look away from the screen, somebody’s gonna die.”

  • Susan Gunn says:

    No, dear. ‘destructions’