For the Sake of One We Love and Are Losing: A Meditative Poem & Journal


This poem will help you say what you want to say when someone you love is dying or has passed away.

Read this poem for solace. Share it during gatherings of farewell and remembrance. Save it as a keepsake, attaching photographs, jotting down memories and reflections. Offer it as a gift of compassion. However you choose to use it, may it bring you consolation.

This beautiful special edition book ($18.95; 84 pp., dimensions 5.5.” x 8″) was released by Bell Sound Books in May, 2020. It is available for order only on this website. All copies are signed by the poet. Personalized inscriptions upon request.

Purchase the paperback edition using the “Add to Cart” button below. This poem is also available as an elegant “thinking of you” or sympathy card. Learn more here.


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Praise for For the Sake of One We Love and Are Losing

Within the pages of this beautiful book, we have instructions for how to be fully present as we sit with the dying, then walk the path of grieving. May everyone who reads these words have their heart opened in compassion. Barbara Crooker, author of The Book of Kells (winner of Poetry by the Sea’s 2018 Best Book Award) and Some Glad Morning

When faced with the loss of a loved one, so few of us know where to turn, but now we have this simple yet profound companion for the grief journey each of us must face, doing our best to `embrace what we fear as if it were a lost child crying in our arms.’ James Crews, editor of Healing the Divide: Poems of Kindness and Connection

With exquisite sensitivity and great tenderness, Phyllis Cole-Dai brings us the impossible—a way to engage with the mystery of loss. It honors the terrible aloneness and at the same time points us toward the gifts of loving and being alive. I wept with the truth of it. Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, author of Hush and Naked for Tea

This poem entered my heart as a balm, a gift that seemed specially crafted for my losses. But I know all who read these words—that arrived from the dream world—will be moved deeply. This stunning book will serve as a life raft to carry you to the other side of your journey of grief. Marianne Murphy Zarzana, poet


Testimonials from Readers

Ms. Cole-Dai’s beautiful poem brought visible calm and peace to our family when it was read at the Memorial for our beloved son. Her words speak quietly but firmly … and one is quieted and calmed in the face of unbelievable loss. Donald M. Mayhew

A sensitive and insightful offering of comfort to a friend or loved one who is in that most delicate space–the tender time of anticipatory grief and appreciation for a life that is nearing its close. Cole-Dai’s writing captures the support that we wish to give, but that most of us neglect because we can’t find words. Here is a caring solution to the dilemma of “What can I say?”. A precious gift. Kim Langley, author Send My Roots Rain: a companion on the grief journey

What a wonder this small book is. So unique in its place in the dying process, a place that I don’t think has been met in such a way as this before. Indeed, this book is a gift in any hands. I look forward to turning to it when my soul calls out for it. Carroll Jones